I’ve posted on the topic of friends before, but I think it’s time for me to do it again.
A friend is a person you can trust, who believes the best about you and wants the best for you.
Basically if you don’t think I’m awesome, then we are not friends. If I don’t think you’re awesome then we are not friends.
I don’t even understand how people are friends with people who think the worst about them….people who only want “good enough” for them.
I just can’t get with it!!!
So…..recently and shamefully I cursed out a bank employee over the phone. I am not proud, but I share because I am transparent about my areas of weakness.
Now some of you read this and think….”See that’s how she is……she’s an angry bird….she’s not really saved….yada, yada, yada…she hasn’t changed at all.
Y’all…..are NOT my friends.
My FRIENDS are saying, “aww man, that stinks for her…she must be upset about it…let me pray for her and lift her up…..let me check on her….or I know how that is…”
Do you see the difference?
I talk about friends so much because your environment has a huge impact on your life. Who are you spending your time with? Are you spending it with people that will cover your sins in love (not cover up, but cover in love through prayer)? Or maybe you are spending time with people that want to expose your sins and shortcomings to the world.
This isn’t about judging people and calling them out…this is about taking an inventory of your current “friends” and identifying with whom you should spend more of your time and who needs to be pulled out of rotation.
Ask yourself…”should I continue to be around them? Am I good for them? Are they good for me? Do they spend time encouraging me or making excuses for me to give up on my dream? Do I feel better after spending time with them or am I questioning my worth?
You can spend your time however you like…..I….have a job to do a vision to see come to pass and can’t afford to spend time with people who aren’t my friends.
BTW…this goes for family as well. Just because you are related to them doesn’t mean you have to spend time with them….especially if it is not a positive situation. Just saying….healthy boundaries people!