“We are NOT friends!”…..may have given you the wrong impression about me and my feelings on friendship.
I believe in friendship people!!
I know I’ve written many posts about friendship. Maybe you think I don’t have any friends or that I don’t believe in friendship. This couldn’t be further from the truth. I LOVE friendship. It is endorsed by God Himself. The problem I see most often in friendships is that we have sometimes made friends with people that weren’t qualified for the position. You don’t just want any warm body to be your friend do you? You are trying to live your life courageously, so you have to be careful of the people you qualify as “friends”.
A great friend is essential to a life with courage. This is why it is featured so often in the blog. The word of God explains the importance of friendship and also provides us with a standard by which to qualify people.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NIV)
Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
First in the scripture comes the endorsement: “Two are better than one”. This nugget of wisdom gives the institution of friendship a “thumbs up” and then provides the reasons why they are so beneficial.
Here they are:
- They increase productivity. When you work together you get more done.
- Your friend will help you when you fall. We all go through difficult times and a friend is there to pick you up in those dark times.
- If you fall, without a friend, you will not have anyone to help you out.
- What if you are both going through something and neither of you can lift the other? Well when you go through it together, and at least you can comfort one another…warm each other’s heart.
- When the enemy comes to attack you, if you are alone you may be overpowered, but with your friend you can defend yourselves against him.
- The more friends the better. The scripture starts with two is better than one, but ends with “three strands is not quickly broken.”
Those sound like great reasons to make friends. The question is: since you want a friend…can you be a friend?
Are you willing to roll up your sleeves and work on a common goal when your friend needs it?
When your friend falls, will you make time to pick her up or are you too busy living your life to even notice?
When you are going through something, will you share that pain, that struggle, with her so she knows she’s not the only one going through a difficult time?
When she is under attack, will you stand with her..defend her?
Are you okay with not being the “only” friend?
So….did you make the cut?